“Bullies don’t like to be bullied … “, someone said to me recently. If they’re not challenged or held to account though, they will continue to overpower the little people was my response (feeling like one of the little people in respect of this particular conversation). So, I began to ask myself, how is it possible to stand up, to challenge and simply to call out poor (at best) and horrendous (at worst) behaviours?
There are terrible things that continue to ravage our Earth in addition to, and because of, the Covid situation.
Poverty is increasing, economies are crumbling, coups are taking place, militias are acting, weird weather is squalling, horrific and inciteful words are being thrown, famine is striking, conflict is growing … we really do live in a mad, mad World. And like in the song lyrics – there are days when I’d like to ‘hide my head, I wanna drown my sorrow, no tomorrow, no tomorrow’ because I would dearly love the madness to stop.
“Everything that irritates us about others can lead us to an understanding of ourselves.” – Carl Jung
“More often than not, the things we detest and judge in others are a reflection of the things we cannot accept about ourselves.” – Iyanla L’anzant
“When you blame and criticise others, you are avoiding some truth about yourself.” – unknown
“How people treat other people is a direct reflection of how they feel about themselves.” – unknown
Well, what a year 2020 has been …
For some this year has been the most brutal – entertainment, restaurants, pubs, and other businesses have been devastated as restrictions and market uncertainty conspired to keep customers away.
For others, health has been impacted – either through contracting the virus or through mental health being adversely affected – loneliness, isolation and lack of human interaction being a huge factor in this outcome.
I have had many conversations recently with friends and colleagues and realised that I need to seriously work on being less grown up!
No! You might argue … how will you ever be credible if you are less grown up? Surely, in business, with your clients, in the board roles you’ve performed and will again, it’s important to be the most serious and gritty person there is to be taken seriously, to be listened to?
It all seems a little heavy right now …
… Which is not at all surprising. A year of change, of uncertainty, of inflicted control, of isolation, of mixed messages, of little understanding, of diminished humility, of jobs losses, of a mixed sense of identity, of loss, of gains, of witnessing aggressive, bullying and inappropriate behaviours for high office. It’s bonkers ...
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