How does this work? How do I work? Because I’m not sure I know who I am anymore!
That’s seemingly a daft statement because obviously I do know who I actually am. What I really mean is, in this new world where things are opening up, the ‘rules’ are murky, Covid cases are increasing and yet we are being given greater and greater freedom, I am feeling confused, agitated, at times anxious and I am not entirely certain I know how to behave. Is it OK to hug our family and friends? Is it OK to pass the salt at the dinner table? Do I pick up all our glasses from the waiter’s tray or let others take their own drink? Did I remember to sanitise my hands before I touched the steering wheel after I’ve been shopping?
Thank you Lisa Malcolm for the provocation to write more about how to give good feedback – here are some of my thoughts, although I am sure you (and others) will have more to add …
First, all feedback will provoke a reaction. For example, Lisa commented on one of my LinkedIn posts, talking about the importance of giving feedback, suggesting that I (someone) talk more about how to give it, acknowledging that we all know it’s needed.
We have chosen each other
and the edge of each others’ battles
the war is the same
if we lose
someday women’s blood will congeal
upon a dead planet
“Bullies don’t like to be bullied … “, someone said to me recently. If they’re not challenged or held to account though, they will continue to overpower the little people was my response (feeling like one of the little people in respect of this particular conversation). So, I began to ask myself, how is it possible to stand up, to challenge and simply to call out poor (at best) and horrendous (at worst) behaviours?
There are terrible things that continue to ravage our Earth in addition to, and because of, the Covid situation.
Poverty is increasing, economies are crumbling, coups are taking place, militias are acting, weird weather is squalling, horrific and inciteful words are being thrown, famine is striking, conflict is growing … we really do live in a mad, mad World. And like in the song lyrics – there are days when I’d like to ‘hide my head, I wanna drown my sorrow, no tomorrow, no tomorrow’ because I would dearly love the madness to stop.
“Everything that irritates us about others can lead us to an understanding of ourselves.” – Carl Jung
“More often than not, the things we detest and judge in others are a reflection of the things we cannot accept about ourselves.” – Iyanla L’anzant
“When you blame and criticise others, you are avoiding some truth about yourself.” – unknown
“How people treat other people is a direct reflection of how they feel about themselves.” – unknown
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