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How To Get Out of Your Own Way

Have you ever felt, despite pushing yourself, setting goals and genuinely trying hard to do your best, that the feeling of success simply eludes you?

We could, and often do, choose to blame external factors when things go wrong. The people in your team are not delivering what you expected, your manager doesn't understand you and what you need, that book you read on goal-setting was not really helpful.

When we choose to reflect on how we might be acting as our own saboteur however, clarity comes. These acts of unconscious self-defiance get in the way of our achievements and can be exhausting as we hold a list of things ‘to do’ and say that somehow never get just attention.

If you've ever felt that life is not going your way no matter how hard you try, then it's time to take a deep breath and consider what is going on for you.

It is the awareness that it's time to pause that is the first step to getting out of your own way.

Let’s begin by misquoting Yoda (of Star Wars fame) – “there is no such thing as try, there is only do or do not do”. ‘Trying’ holds us in a place of stasis, it is neither commitment to succeed nor permission to leave. Making a conscious, assertive, decision to do one or the other is liberating.

What instances can you recall when you've felt frustrated, out of control, unable to get things done? What are the recurring themes or patterns you can identify?

Ask yourself, 'How did my beliefs (or the way I think) contribute to this?' For example you may find yourself continually frustrated with managing your team. A contributing (and limiting) belief may be, 'I have to do it all.'

For each unhelpful belief or mode of thinking you've identified, ask yourself,

  • 'How is this belief serving me?'
  • 'What would be a more helpful belief?'
  • ‘What support do I need to change or modify my beliefs? 'Where can I get it?'

Getting out of your way is about removing your self-imposed limitations; it's about identifying and dealing with that which gets in the way of your creativity. Asking yourself these questions allows you to start getting back into flow and being clear about what you want, need and can achieve.

For more tips on getting out of your own way take a look at our ebook (sign up on the right) 'Gaining Confidence in a Leadership Role'

Posted on Fri, March 14, 2014 in Personal Development
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There are 1 comments:

  1. This has to be linked to use of the word ‘and’ instead of ‘but’?
    A lesson well learnt and still in use several years after you introduced me to the concept!

    Comment left on Tue, March 18, 2014


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